How do you pretend to stay happy when your so miserable? This question is weighing heavily on me right now. I KNOW that things will get better and this is just a part of medical school but it's almost too much. Warning Rant Time:  This morning I asked S how prepared she felt for her blocks tomorrow (testing) and she said not great.  I asked her if she was going to study with her friend and she said "It's kinda hard to study with someone when you don't know the material yourself". WTF!!!! I know that it's A LOT of material,but you claim to have been doing nothing but studying and you are NOT retaining anything.  Sweet Jesus!!  I am trying to be a supportive spouse but the communication that we had is gone. S no longer tells me her thoughts, feelings, NOTHING.  When I try she just cries..  This is so frustrating.  So  back to my original question.  How do I pretend?  I really need to because S needs to focus solely on school or all this hard work and sacrifice on my part will have been for nothing.  I told S this morning that I am no longer going to share my feelings or opinions and walked away.  S came down stairs a few minutes later like nothing happened, so my take is that this is what she wants.